The 1-2-3 Boundary Method: Practice Companion
A brief guide and set of sample scripts for real-life conversations
Sign up to receive a free resource introducing the 1-2-3 Method for setting mindful boundaries, with practical example scripts you can use in everyday situations. The 1-2-3 Method helps you set healthy boundaries from the inside out—staying attuned to the natural connection between caring for yourself and caring for others. This companion offers a meaningful way to continue your learning from the workshop, and our upcoming 2026 course will take the practice even further.
From Self-Care to We-Care: The New Science of Mindful Boundaries and Caring from an Undivided Heart
by Jordan Quaglia, PhD + Foreword by Daniel J. Siegel, MD
Learn to harmonize self-care with caring for others through we-care, a science-based approach designed to enhance personal and social well-being, promote healthy boundaries, and offer a path of healing and transformation.
"Combining neuroscience and contemplative practice, Jordan Quaglia offers quantitative backing for the felt experience of our interconnected nature—compassion and care become far more potent when they are extended not only to ourselves but to a broader circle of ‘we.’"
—Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness and Real Life
Too many of us are familiar with the burnout that can come from overextending ourselves for others. Self-care is often promoted as the solution to this imbalance, but there are growing concerns that an overemphasis on self-care is exacerbating interpersonal challenges, fraying the fabric of our communities, and diminishing our responsiveness to broader social issues. In a world where time can feel increasingly scarce, we find ourselves in a dilemma: should we prioritize ourselves or others? Yet as psychologist and compassion scientist Jordan Quaglia demonstrates, this choice is based on a false dichotomy. The emerging science and practice of we-care reframes the very concept of care as a social force that includes both self and other.
Through personal stories, guided inquiries, practical social exercises, and insights from cutting-edge neuroscience, Quaglia offers a framework and toolset designed to help you find a more balanced way to express your innate sense of compassion. This holistic approach sparks transformative changes across your health, relationships, and work—uplifting yourself and others while supporting a stronger, more connected society for us all.
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